10 ways to forgive yourself and move forward

Please read the following before we begin: Please keep in mind that this blog is strictly for informational purposes and does not constitute medical or legal advice, medical services, clinical advice, or any other type of professional assistance. If you have a medical concern, you should see your doctor or health care provider right away.

Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it.

— Maya Angelou

Everyone makes mistakes

Throughout your life, no matter what you do, you will face problems and make mistakes that you will need to learn from, and these mistakes will make you stronger. It all depends on how you handle these mistakes. There will always be something at which you will fail. Something that will undermine your confidence, as well as certain situations that will lead to you being incorrect and making poor decisions.

What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness is generally referred to as the process of letting go of negative feelings of anger, bitterness, and vengeance toward someone who has wronged you. This is great, and we should try to forgive others who have wronged us, but are you forgiving yourself? Today’s discussion is about you forgiving yourself for whatever you have done either to someone you love or yourself.

How do you forgive yourself?

To forgive yourself one must:

1. Identify the hurt.

  • Determine the source of the discomfort.
  • Why are you in so much pain?
  • What has caused you distress?
  • Have you ever harmed someone else?
  • What did you do to aggravate the situation?

2. Accept Responsibility

Accept your responsibilities and acknowledge your mistakes, as well as the pain you’ve caused others and yourself in the past. We can even hurt ourselves; we should recognize this while making amends with those we have wronged.

3. Is it guilt or shame?

It is acceptable to feel guilty, but one must understand the distinction between guilt and shame.

The difference between guilt and shame

Guilt is an emotion of guilt or remorse associated with a feeling of moral or personal responsibility.

Shame can be defined as the bad feeling that sets in after one behaves in an unacceptable, inappropriate, or ridiculous manner, depending on the context.

Shame and guilt are frequently used interchangeably to describe the same feelings, but their meanings are vastly different. Shame, on the other hand, is a more inward expression of how you feel about yourself and your actions that, unlike guilt, can help you understand how you affect others.

One source suggests that shameful people seek to avoid and attack; guilty people repair and rebuild.

To begin the healing process and accept forgiveness within yourself, you must first understand where the issue exists within you so that you can pinpoint where to begin healing and accepting forgiveness.

4. Apologize

The first step in your healing process should be to admit your mistakes, apologize to others and to yourself, and write yourself an apology. It makes no difference whether your loved one is alive or dead. However, it may be the first step toward recovery.

5. Take care of yourself.

Take care of your by taking care of yourself.

  • It is critical to consume nutrient-dense foods.
  • Take care of your personal hygiene.
  • Make plans to see family, friends, or a friend.
  • On paper, write down how you’re feeling that day. Keep a diary of your emotions.
  • Do things you enjoy doing on a daily basis, such as reading or learning a new hobby.
  • Maintain a consistent sleep schedule.
  • If you work, try to get some sick time. Our mental health, like our physical health, requires rest from time to time.
  • Thinking about things from a different angle can help you see things more clearly. Listening to others rather than speaking first or all of the time.

6. Change your view

Do you think your point of view is the only one?
Get together with people who have a completely different background than you. This may open your mind and allow you to consider new ideas and concepts. You’ll be surprised at how much your mindset can change once your perspective broadens.

7. Know your feelings

It is critical that you are aware of your emotions. Know what you are feeling and going through. Attempt to identify the emotions as they occur. The ability to name them as you experience them. A journal is an excellent tool for keeping track of your emotions. It is beneficial to learn the words for each emotion and to remember to write about them in your journal.

8. What do you want?

It is critical to have a clear understanding of what you want. Before you can do anything else, you must understand what you want and examine the situation and the underlying reasons for your desires. Try to see yourself through the eyes of others, reexamine the situation, and try to comprehend it. You can also use a mind map to assist you in determining what it is that you want. You may also want to reconsider other options; it’s always a good idea to have a plan B ready for almost anything.

9. Be realistic

Be realistic; recognize and work to overcome unrealistic expectations. Try to halt yourself by catching yourself when you begin to have these expectations; call yourself out in your mind and reflect on them. Our perspective can be greatly influenced by our expectations. As a result, it is critical that we are aware of them. We must also remember that not only do our own expectations matter but so do the expectations of others. Finally, we must practice compassion for those around us as well as for ourselves, and we must allow ourselves to be more flexible in our expectations.

10. Put gratitude as a substitute for guilt

If you find yourself feeling guilty about something, shift your focus to gratitude. Concentrate on your accomplishments. Consider your accomplishments and how you overcame them, and try to adopt a more positive attitude.

Begin to move forward

After you’ve begun your journey toward forgiveness, the next step is to let go. Stay away from dwelling on the negatives and what-ifs. Don’t let your past control you. It’s time to rise above the chaos of your situation and be your best, most confident self.

Have you ever faced a challenge that you overcame? What strategies did you employ to successfully navigate the situation?


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