10 ways to forgive yourself and move forward

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Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it.

— Maya Angelou

Everyone makes mistakes


Throughout your life, no matter what you do, you will face problems and make mistakes that you will need to learn from, and these mistakes will make you stronger. It all depends on how you handle these mistakes. There will always be something at which you will fail. Something that will undermine your confidence, as well as certain situations that will lead to you being incorrect and making poor decisions.


What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness is generally referred to as the process of letting go of negative feelings of anger, bitterness, and vengeance toward someone who has wronged you. This is great, and we should try to forgive others who have wronged us, but are you forgiving yourself? Today’s discussion is about you forgiving yourself for whatever you have done either to someone you love or yourself.


How do you forgive yourself?

To forgive yourself one must:

1. Identify the hurt.

  • Determine the source of the discomfort.
  • Why are you in so much pain?
  • What has caused you distress?
  • Have you ever harmed someone else?
  • What did you do to aggravate the situation?

2. Accept Responsibility

Accept your responsibilities and acknowledge your mistakes, as well as the pain you’ve caused others and yourself in the past. We can even hurt ourselves; we should recognize this while making amends with those we have wronged.


3. Is it guilt or shame?

It is acceptable to feel guilty, but one must understand the distinction between guilt and shame.


The difference between guilt and shame


Guilt is an emotion of guilt or remorse associated with a feeling of moral or personal responsibility.

Shame can be defined as the bad feeling that sets in after one behaves in an unacceptable, inappropriate, or ridiculous manner, depending on the context.

Shame and guilt are frequently used interchangeably to describe the same feelings, but their meanings are vastly different. Shame, on the other hand, is a more inward expression of how you feel about yourself and your actions that, unlike guilt, can help you understand how you affect others.

One source suggests that shameful people seek to avoid and attack; guilty people repair and rebuild.

To begin the healing process and accept forgiveness within yourself, you must first understand where the issue exists within you so that you can pinpoint where to begin healing and accepting forgiveness.


4. Apologize

The first step in your healing process should be to admit your mistakes, apologize to others and to yourself, and write yourself an apology. It makes no difference whether your loved one is alive or dead. However, it may be the first step toward recovery.


5. Take care of yourself.

Take care of your by taking care of yourself.

  • It is critical to consume nutrient-dense foods.
  • Take care of your personal hygiene.
  • Make plans to see family, friends, or a friend.
  • On paper, write down how you’re feeling that day. Keep a diary of your emotions.
  • Do things you enjoy doing on a daily basis, such as reading or learning a new hobby.
  • Maintain a consistent sleep schedule.
  • If you work, try to get some sick time. Our mental health, like our physical health, requires rest from time to time.
  • Thinking about things from a different angle can help you see things more clearly. Listening to others rather than speaking first or all of the time.

6. Change your view

Do you think your point of view is the only one?
Get together with people who have a completely different background than you. This may open your mind and allow you to consider new ideas and concepts. You’ll be surprised at how much your mindset can change once your perspective broadens.


7. Know your feelings

It is critical that you are aware of your emotions. Know what you are feeling and going through. Attempt to identify the emotions as they occur. The ability to name them as you experience them. A journal is an excellent tool for keeping track of your emotions. It is beneficial to learn the words for each emotion and to remember to write about them in your journal.


8. What do you want?

It is critical to have a clear understanding of what you want. Before you can do anything else, you must understand what you want and examine the situation and the underlying reasons for your desires. Try to see yourself through the eyes of others, reexamine the situation, and try to comprehend it. You can also use a mind map to assist you in determining what it is that you want. You may also want to reconsider other options; it’s always a good idea to have a plan B ready for almost anything.


9. Be realistic

Be realistic; recognize and work to overcome unrealistic expectations. Try to halt yourself by catching yourself when you begin to have these expectations; call yourself out in your mind and reflect on them. Our perspective can be greatly influenced by our expectations. As a result, it is critical that we are aware of them. We must also remember that not only do our own expectations matter but so do the expectations of others. Finally, we must practice compassion for those around us as well as for ourselves, and we must allow ourselves to be more flexible in our expectations.


10. Put gratitude as a substitute for guilt


If you find yourself feeling guilty about something, shift your focus to gratitude. Concentrate on your accomplishments. Consider your accomplishments and how you overcame them, and try to adopt a more positive attitude.


Begin to move forward

After you’ve begun your journey toward forgiveness, the next step is to let go. Stay away from dwelling on the negatives and what-ifs. Don’t let your past control you. It’s time to rise above the chaos of your situation and be your best, most confident self.

Have you ever faced a challenge that you overcame? What strategies did you employ to successfully navigate the situation?

XOXO,

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10 ways to love your husband unconditionally

Please read the following before we begin: Please keep in mind that this blog is strictly for informational purposes and does not constitute medical or legal advice, medical services, clinical advice, or any other type of professional assistance. If you have a medical problem, you should see your doctor or health care provider right away.

“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”

– Dave Meurer

No matter how long you’ve been with your husband, there will come a time when you want to strangle him. I imagine that at some point in every married woman’s life, she will question her reasons for being in the marriage or will be concerned about how she will deal with a feeling or situation with him.

You wouldn’t necessarily feel this way before entering into a marriage. But inevitably, your husbands will irritate you, and your tempers will occasionally flare. It is almost normal for people to become annoyed or put off by one another. That is when space must be implemented. Take some time alone to think about the situation.

The topic of discussion today is loving your husband unconditionally. It doesn’t matter what he has done or said. We can still find a way to love unconditionally. Unless it’s an abusive relationship, then that is a different story. 


1. Show him respect

It is important that you show respect for one another. You can do this in numerous ways:

Such as: 

  • When he speaks, you should look at him.
  • It is important not to interrupt him as he is speaking.
  • Smile at him; sometimes, just a smile makes all the difference; it can change his day.
  • Let him know what you admire about him.
  • Ask him about his day.

It’s important that you respect your husband for many reasons. 

  • His trust in you will lead him to come to you for any reason.
  • Respect will motivate him and will encourage him to love you more
  • He is the role model for your children.
  • It acknowledges the qualities he possesses as your husband and father of your children.
  • He supports his family on a financial and emotional level as well.

2. Work through problems

You must learn to deal with difficult circumstances. There will be many difficult times in your relationship. It’s critical not to get too caught up in the situation and to remember why you both love each other. Remember to talk about it; don’t go to bed angry.

It is critical to discuss issues rather than avoid them. Our minds have a tendency to over-analyze situations, which can exacerbate the situation. Make it a point to express everything you’re feeling. Make certain that you are paying attention when he speaks. Praise him and express your love for him.


3. Don’t dwell on imperfections

Don’t be concerned if you notice minor flaws. Don’t put too much pressure on your husband. Nobody is flawless. We all have flaws, even you and me. We expect our husband to overlook our minor flaws, and we must reciprocate.


4. Learn his love language

Learn your husband’s love language. 

Love language is how we love each other. We all have our ways of showing love and receiving it. We can do this by:

  • Saying kind words to each other
  • Doing extra helpful things for him that you wouldn’t usually do.
  • Giving him a gift or a note to tell him you are thinking about him
  • Physical touch, a hug, or a kiss. 
  • Quality time

5. Surprise him

Allow him to be surprised; do small things that he would not expect; change things up in ways that will surprise him and make those events memorable, and be spontaneous.


6. Take an interest in subjects that are important to him

Make an effort to be interested in matters that are important to him and do not make fun of them or make him feel as if his interests are unimportant. Play video games with him if he enjoys them.


7. Laugh together

The most important thing is to laugh as much together as possible. Seek out funny things to share, tell funny stories, post funny memes, make videos, etc. 


8. Spend time alone together

Spend time with him intimately and add some spice to your sex life. Also, the bedroom isn’t the only place you can be intimate. Be sure to have a date night, where you can both spend quality time together and talk.


9. Be his friend

You will learn a great deal about him if you can let him relax and be himself without having to act like he has duties to his wife. He will be a better husband if he knows that you are his best friend, not just his spouse. 


10. Take time to care of yourself

 Give him space; take the time to care for and pamper yourself, and always strive to look your best when you are around your husband. Spend some time alone to attend to your own needs. It allows you to miss each other while also providing you with the personal space you require. It also demonstrates your independence; most men appreciate an independent woman who isn’t clingy and needs to be in the same room with them 24 hours a day; most men value their privacy as well.


Are you still unhappy?

If you believe you have done everything listed above and have gone above and beyond and are still unhappy, or if your spouse appears to be unhappy, you should take a step back and consider your best course of action. Seek counseling or write him an open letter outlining how you intend to resolve the situation. Marriage requires two people to work together, and it is not a one-way street. You must both want your marriage to succeed.

In a later post, I’ll discuss how to tell if your marriage has ended. You are not obligated to stay in an unhappy marriage. It doesn’t matter what anyone says; if you aren’t happy and are tired of putting so much effort into your marriage, you are free to end it. In other words, you are not required to endure abuse or emotional neglect. However, when it comes to the matter at hand, it is up to you to decide what you deserve and what is best for you both.


Do you have any marriage secrets?

How do you maintain the strength of your marriage? Please leave your secrets in the comments section.

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