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“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”– Dave Meurer
There will come a time when you will feel like strangling him no matter how long you have been with your husband. I would imagine there will be a time in every married woman’s life where she’ll question her reasons for being in the marriage or just thinking about how she will get through a feeling or situation with him.
Coming into a marriage, you wouldn’t necessarily feel this way. But, inevitably, your husbands will get on your nerves, and your tempers will sometimes nip at each other. It is almost normal to become annoyed or put off by each other. That is when space needs to be implemented. Take some time alone to reflect on the situation.
The topic of discussion today is loving your husband unconditionally. It doesn’t matter what he has done or said. We can still find a way to love unconditionally. Unless it’s an abusive relationship, then that is a different story.
1. Show him respect
It is important that you show respect for one another. You can do this in numerous ways:
- When he speaks, you should look at him.
- It is important not to interrupt him as he is speaking.
- Smile at him; sometimes, just a smile makes all the difference; it can change his day.
- Let him know what you admire about him.
- Ask him about his day.
It’s important that you respect your husband for many reasons.
- His trust in you will lead him to come to you for any reason.
- Respect will motivate him and will encourage him to love you more
- He is the role model for your children.
- It acknowledges the qualities he possesses as your husband and father of your children.
- He supports his family on a financial and emotional level as well.
2. Work through problems
You must learn to work through difficult times. There will be many difficult times during your relationship. It’s important not to get too caught up in the situation and remember why you both love each other. Remember to talk about it, don’t go to bed angry.
It is important to talk through things rather than avoiding them. Our minds can overanalyze and add too much to the situation and can make it worse. Be sure to communicate everything you’re feeling. Make sure you are listening to him when he speaks. Let him know how much you love him and appreciate what he is doing or has done for you; praise him.
3. Don’t dwell on imperfections
Do not worry when you spot the little imperfections. Don’t place high expectations on your husband. No one is perfect. We all have flaws, just like you and me. We expect our husband to overlook our small imperfections, and we must do the same for him.
4. Learn his love language
Learn your husband’s love language.
Love language is how we love each other. We all have our ways of showing love and receiving it. We can do this by:
- Saying kind words to each other
- Doing extra helpful things for him that you wouldn’t usually do.
- Giving him a gift or a note to tell him you are thinking about him
- Physical touch, a hug, or a kiss.
- Quality time
5. Surprise him
Let him feel surprised; do little things which he would not expect; switch things up in ways that make him surprised and make those events memorable; be spontaneous.
6. Take an interest in subjects that are important to him
Make an effort to be interested in important matters to him, and do not make fun of them, do not make him feel like his interests are unimportant. If he enjoys video games, play video games with him.
7. Laugh together
The most important thing is to laugh as much together as possible. Seek out funny things to share, tell funny stories, post funny memes, make videos, etc.
8. Spend alone time together
Spend time with him intimately and add some spice to your sex life. Also, the bedroom isn’t the only place you can be intimate. Be sure to have a date night, where you both can spend quality time together and talk.
9. Be his friend
You will learn a great deal about him if you can let him relax and be himself without having to act like he has duties to his wife. He will be a better husband if he knows that you are his best friend, not just his spouse.
10. Take time to care for yourself
Everyone needs their space eventually, give him space; take the time to care for and pamper yourself and always strive to look your best when you are around your husband. Take care of your own needs, spending some time alone. It allows you both to miss each other and gives you the personal space you need. It also shows him you are independent; most men love an independent woman who isn’t clingy and has to be in the same room 247 with them; men love their space too.
Are you still unhappy?
You should consider that if you feel you have done all listed above and have either gone over and beyond and are still unhappy, or your spouse seems unhappy, you should sit back and consider your best course of action. It may be worthwhile to seek counseling or write him an open letter stating how you would like to resolve it. It takes two to make a marriage work, and it’s not a one-way street. You both must want the marriage to succeed.
Later, I will be sharing ways to tell you if your marriage has ended in a later post. Don’t think you’re obligated to stay in an unhappy marriage; you are not required to. It doesn’t matter what anyone has to say; if you aren’t happy, and you’re tired of putting so much effort into your marriage, then you are allowed to find peace by ending it. In other words, you do not have to endure abuse or emotional neglect either. However, when it comes to the matter at hand, it is up to you to decide what you deserve and what’s better for you both.
Do you have secrets to a happy marriage?
How do you keep your marriage strong? Feel free to share your secrets in the comments section.
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